thursday's thoughts ...

So lately I've been thinking ... what comes after the wedding, the honeymoon and the newlywed phase?

I think this post from The Sweetest Thing sums it up beautifully ... not to mention how excited it makes me. I'm now less than six months away from actually being married and getting to experience everything below! I can't wait.

Sunday morning at the Farmers' Markets

The night before he proposed in Bali

The night after he proposed in Bali

All suited up for a wedding this year ... doesn't he look handsome?

 Marriage is living with your best friend.
 I like to refer to marriage as one big slumber party. Most every evening, we cook dinner together with the 2000s R&B Pandora station playing loudly.We RedBox movies. Bake cookies. Go out for walks. Dance. Watch YouTube videos. And just sit together chatting about our day and laughing.

2. Marriage is having a built-in Doctor/Caretaker. (no, really.)
Growing up, if I were sick, my mom would say, "oh I wish it were me in pain and not you." I never understood why she wanted my pain! But, I get it now. John doesn't get sick often, but when he does I wish it could be me instead. I hate seeing him feel badly. On the other side of that, if I wake up in the middle of the night feeling badly, he gets up too. He gets medicine, water, etc. and talks with me until I fall back asleep. He's always serving others, something that made me fall in love with him in the first place.

3. Marriage is give & take.
No longer are the days that I watch whatever I want, eat whatever I want, spend money on whatever I want. Indeed, those days are great, but they came to a short end when we got married. Of course, its 100% worth it. John & I have to compromise on a lot. I want to watch Pretty Little Liars, he wants to watch some silly, "important" game. I want to eat sushi, he wants pizza. You get the point.

4. Marriage is family.
I had a friend once tell me that you marry the person - not their family. But, the truth is you do marry their family, and it's a beautiful thing! Not only do we each have an extra set of parents, we have an extra set of siblings. And for John & me, our lives are more diversified - his family has a huge medical background and mine, education. We just need a good dentist in the family now! John refers to my brother & sister's kids as "our" nieces & nephews. In fact, he refused to download Instagram - so I downloaded it while he wasn't looking. Now, everytime I see him staring at his phone he's stalking my sister & sister-in-law's Instagrams to see photos of the kids.

5. {our} Marriage is God-centered.
Before marriage, we did a study called Real Marriage by Mark Driscoll. I highly recommend the book to everyone - especially those who are single (yes, I said that. It will help you determine what is really important in finding a spouse.) We both love God more than we love one another, something that helps our love grow larger and larger every. single. day. John is a very bright guy, I am always learning from him. I love studying the Bible with him because he sees stories/verses from the Bible in a whole different way than myself, thus I'm challenged and continuously learning.

6. Marriage is making life sweeter.
If you follow me on Instagram, you'll know that John leaves me a cheesy/sweet note each morning. He always has an inside joke or something really funny or really sweet in the note just to make me laugh or smile when I wake up. Likewise, John is a man with a sweet tooth like no other. If I bring a PB Twix home he's the happiest guy on the planet. One thing I've learned about being married, is that we both are happier if we are making each other happier. Neither of us are too creative but we've both figured out ways to make each other smile!

7. Marriage is"work".
Many of my girlfriends in college wanted to get an M.R.S. degree. They wanted to meet the one and play wife. For some reason, I never wanted that... I had career goals that I had set my sights on. But, as I've learned... I plan my life and God laughs and does something way better than my plans! When John and I were only friends he told me, "I will not date until after medical school!"... HA! That worked out well for him;)!  When I decided to move off and "follow" John as he ventured through his medical school journey - I knew I was putting my career goals on hold. Marriage is work... life dreams are put on hold/changed. Laundry has to be done...but for two. Dinner for two must be cooked... and cannot be too healthy or someone won't touch it. The list could go on... As for John, I know his patience has grown even more than ever after the last four months of WAITING on me... he hates being late. I'm always late. You see the pattern?  It's not all butterflies and hearts - but goodness, it's not far from it considering we don't mind the "work" that is involved. 
Emily Gemma - The Sweetest Thing
Thanks Emily for this lovely advice! I can't wait for all the good and bad times to come ...

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